The podcast examines the emotional aftermath of breakups and the cognitive traps that hinder healing. Rather than suppress feelings or dwell on anger, psychologist Antonio Pascual-Leone advocates for structured reflection using three lists: what was lost, gained, and never realized in the relationship. How people narrate their breakup predicts mental health outcomes, with shallow stories linked to anxiety and depression. Closure comes from within—through practices like unsent letters or the empty chair method—not from the ex-partner. The episode also revisits the 'illusion of explanatory depth,' where people overestimate their understanding of complex issues, especially in politics or medicine. Online access amplifies this illusion, while intellectual humility and curiosity foster better dialogue. Approaching unfamiliar situations like a tourist can reignite openness and learning, helping individuals recalibrate confidence with actual knowledge.