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#1025 - Dr Paul Hewitt - Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism

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#1025 - Dr Paul Hewitt - Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism

Modern Wisdom

3 DAYS AGO

#1025 - Dr Paul Hewitt - Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism

#1025 - Dr Paul Hewitt - Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism

Modern Wisdom

Modern Wisdom

3 DAYS AGO

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Dr Paul Hewitt is a clinical psychologist, professor, and leading researcher on perfectionism. Why do so many of us struggle with perfectionism? For some, it started in childhood—but its impact as an adult can be exhausting. So how do you actually break t...

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Perfectionism is often mistaken for a drive for excellence, but beneath the surface lies a complex emotional struggle rooted in feelings of inadequacy and a need to earn worth through flawless performance.

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Success doesn't touch the underlying belief of unacceptability

35:17

Perfectionism can predict suicide even when controlling for depression and hopelessness

57:24

Intimacy requires revealing vulnerabilities, which perfectionists struggle with

1:05:10

People often regret not doing things more than making mistakes.

1:16:16

CBT-based approaches show high dropout rates and lack long-term change in treating perfectionism.

1:23:06

Lack of mattering drives perfectionism

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What if your drive for perfection is really a cry for self-worth?

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Why are there different kinds of perfectionists—and what do they all have in common?

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How does the need to be perfect destroy real connection—even in therapy?

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Can childhood secrets shape a lifetime of fearing imperfection?

1:05:10

Is talk therapy failing perfectionists—or just using the wrong tools?

1:16:16

What happens when an entire generation can't afford to make mistakes?

1:23:06

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Chris Williamson: Give me a better than most people probably already have working definition of perfectionism. Dr Paul Hewitt: Well, first off, perfectionism is kind of a deeply ingrained personality style that people use to kind of navigate their path th...