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#1026 - Alison Armstrong - How to Treat Men Better

Modern Wisdom

1 DAYS AGO
Modern Wisdom

Modern Wisdom

1 DAYS AGO

Shownote

Alison Armstrong is a relationship coach, speaker, and author. Are modern gender dynamics leaving men feeling ‘castrated’? While men are often blamed for today’s social problems, far less attention is given to how shifting expectations of women and relati...

Highlights

In this thought-provoking conversation, relationship expert Alison Armstrong delves into the subtle but powerful dynamics shaping modern relationships. She explores how evolving gender roles have influenced male identity and emotional expression, often in ways that go unnoticed but deeply impact connection. Rather than assigning blame, the discussion focuses on mutual responsibility—how both women and men contribute to relational patterns, and what can be done to foster healthier, more fulfilling partnerships grounded in understanding and respect.
15:43
Women feel safe when they feel they are pleasing someone because they believe it ensures protection
31:38
Passion in a woman can cause a testosterone spike in men, signaling deep attraction and well-being
51:53
Men initially treat women as they want to be treated in relationships
1:13:38
Surrender in a relationship should be based on specific, evidence-based trust
1:33:03
Dan's honesty about my weight was celebrated, strengthening our trust
1:47:04
Men retract from providing to protecting themselves when emasculated by criticism or ignoring.
2:13:33
Men feel happiness in the neck and chest but often conceal it
2:29:34
A woman needs to feel safe and fulfilled to experience true happiness.
2:49:31
Men make a 'worth it' calculation based on limited resources, unlike women who are more connected to the eternal.

Chapters

Why do women seek safety in relationships differently than men?
00:00
What truly attracts men beyond physical appearance?
20:17
How does female independence affect male initiative?
40:39
Can real security come before full commitment?
58:08
Why do men hide their needs—and what keeps them hidden?
1:18:58
What does it really mean to emasculate a man?
1:38:46
How should women support men without diminishing them?
1:58:43
What evolutionary forces shape how we love today?
2:18:43
Can small changes transform the way we connect?
2:38:54

Transcript

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