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Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 2

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Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 2

Hidden Brain

Oct 06
Hidden Brain

Hidden Brain

Oct 06
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When things go wrong in our relationships, we often try to change the way our partners behave. But usually, trying to fix a person only makes things worse. Last week, we talked to psychologist James Cordova about why this tendency can be so damaging, and w...

Highlights

When conflicts arise in relationships, the instinct to change our partner can deepen rifts rather than repair them. This episode explores a more transformative approach—embracing acceptance and compassion not only as tools for connection but as gateways to personal growth and resilience. Through intimate conversations and real-life stories, we uncover how shifting our focus inward can lead to profound breakthroughs in how we relate to others and ourselves.
12:31
Taking responsibility for your role in conflict, even when hurt, is essential for intimacy.
34:38
Compassion naturally emerges when we find understandable reasons for others' actions
1:03:09
Purpose grows through action, not just reflection—doing changes everything.
1:16:54
Purpose can be found even in mundane jobs when viewed as meaningful contribution
1:23:17
Self-transcendence helps rebuild purpose by looking beyond family to serve others
1:35:00
A seven-year-old finds purpose in saving shrimp

Chapters

Can accepting your partner transform your relationship?
00:00
What happens when you meet anger with empathy instead of defense?
26:45
Why do we act the way we do—and how can we truly understand each other?
38:07
How do we find meaning beyond the self, especially in failure or routine?
1:10:07
What becomes of a parent’s purpose when children no longer need them?
1:23:17
Is it possible to balance many purposes without losing direction?
1:31:07
How can we guide others—and ourselves—toward a life of purpose?
1:38:09

Transcript

Shankar Vedantam: This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. When things go wrong in our relationships, we often try to change the way our partners behave. We tell ourselves that if only they would change their ways, we could be happy. Of course, the prob...